tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post555148428565894790..comments2023-06-24T11:38:47.717-04:00Comments on Black Girls Rule!: "White Men Don't Want You!"Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05618974302577733245noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-81322819942071466142008-10-28T21:46:00.000-04:002008-10-28T21:46:00.000-04:00Yeah really please do not buy into that whole atti...Yeah really please do not buy into that whole attitude crap. Many of the women with attitudes from ghetto to acting like you didn't exist or were low on the totem pole have been ww as well as any other women of any race. I found this when I worked on a short film for a 48 hour film festival. Not all, but some of them were. I wasn't sure if it was just be or maybe I was just crazy.Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-86778336178971517962008-10-26T19:59:00.000-04:002008-10-26T19:59:00.000-04:00Wow Andrew you must really love bw-Ir blogs cause ...Wow Andrew you must really love bw-Ir blogs cause you sure love coming to them frequently.Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-66322569984818536892008-07-13T20:47:00.000-04:002008-07-13T20:47:00.000-04:00As a white man who "discovered" the extraordinary ...As a white man who "discovered" the extraordinary beauty of black women a dozen years ago, I can only say that our culturally engrained prejudices can be overcome. Black women are the most beautiful women on earth IMO but coming to that conclusion for me was a process that involved much more about what was wrong with me, not what black women needed to prove or demonstrate. It involved self-examination, self-exploration, admitting that things I saw within myself needed to be changed, and most importantly, that God's view of things was not my view. Only when we are honest with ourselves can we truly change. <BR/><BR/>It's important for the negative images of black women that we see in the media to be countereacted by whites as well as African Americans. I don't see enough of this. I see white's react to things from a position of political correctness out of cultural coersion, but rarely do I see us stand up and proactively take a stand when we see or hear these images represented. That must change; and it is MEN who need to lead this change. For to long we've ignored our responsibilities to be leaders in our homes and our societies. The consequence of this failure is that women have had to step into a role they've had thrust upon them. When we have strong men of all races who will step forward and lead, these images we see around us will begin to also dissapear.<BR/><BR/>IR relationships are a growing fact of life in America that is only going to grow larger as time goes on. I look forward to the day when these issues will seem curiously quaint and outdated, and we will look back on the existence of these blogs and their discussions as relics from some bygone era as we now do with pictures of black and white drinking fountains.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-46835656184620201242008-07-04T12:55:00.000-04:002008-07-04T12:55:00.000-04:00Dear Pathetic sellout WomanJust because White men ...Dear Pathetic sellout Woman<BR/><BR/>Just because White men "hit on you" does not mean he wants a committed relationship with you. Again worshiping the white man like he is "baby jesus". <BR/><BR/>I figure your going to tell me " that you were passed around by several white men and they all loved you right?<BR/><BR/>The fact is white men on a whole do not date full figured black women. They won't date "Tameka" that is struggling to get by on her job. Also he will not date a black women with a black child from a black man she "broke up with". Now if you say that is happening I will tell you stop sipping on grandma's cough medicine.<BR/><BR/>Good day to all<BR/><BR/>Sincerely <BR/><BR/>Mr Laurelton QueensAndrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09219240435751933526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-4933973383589327382008-07-04T07:30:00.000-04:002008-07-04T07:30:00.000-04:00Well this is certainly a very, very untrue myth as...Well this is certainly a very, very untrue myth as I can attest. I am very black-looking; dark brown skin, very thick natural hair, wide nose, big lips. and typical curvaceous (though NOT fat) black woman body. If I'm supposed to be unattractive to non-black men, someone forgot to tell all the ones who have ever hit on me LOL!<BR/><BR/>Black women...need to get over this belief that we aren't attractive, period. Yes we are, end of story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-72876655494847187282008-06-05T23:47:00.000-04:002008-06-05T23:47:00.000-04:00Hi, I am in a long term relationship with a white ...Hi, I am in a long term relationship with a white man, with whom I have two daughters and I am black. Before meeting him I had only had a monogamous relationship with one other white guy and that didn't work out because of my own insecurities as well as his ignorance towards my feelings--or maybe I put too much importance on skin color and not on human relationships. Well, anyway what made me fall in love with my partner was that he accepted me as I am. Curly hair, brown skin--everything. He glorifies me and always tell me how beautiful I am. He made me feel secure and comfortable in my own skin like I had never felt before. I had always tried to change myself to fit other peoples ideas of who I should be. The black men that I dated would always want my hair straight and things like that, but when I met Brett he encouraged me to be natural. Telling me that it was my natural beauty that he loved. So, that is my story on inter racial dating. No matter who you decide to love--make sure they love you for who you naturally are.<BR/>Kalisha<BR/>http://mommylounge.wordpress.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-74896551365590036392008-05-20T15:52:00.000-04:002008-05-20T15:52:00.000-04:00Great topic, Aimee!When I was younger, and living ...Great topic, Aimee!<BR/><BR/>When I was younger, and living in Europe, I didn't have any trouble dating. European men often found my looks to be exotic and unique (I'm very tall, and at the time, rather petite with long braids). But since returning to the US it's been more difficult. I think a great deal of it has to do with my own self-esteem (I had gained weight) and confidence, but I also think Americans are much more confined by what they consider to be social and cultural taboos. Even if they would date outside their "race" I think many white men feel a pressure not to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-91747443318046677182008-05-16T23:58:00.000-04:002008-05-16T23:58:00.000-04:00Mark Lewis said... Speaking as a white man, I find...Mark Lewis said... <BR/>Speaking as a white man, I find black women to be the most beautiful women on the face of the earth.<BR/><BR/>April 24, 2008 5:05 PM<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>That's very, very sweet of you. =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-54358302918159094622008-05-02T17:13:00.000-04:002008-05-02T17:13:00.000-04:00Gorgeous, but according to too many misguided and ...<I>Gorgeous, but according to too many misguided and just plain ignorant people, BM "love" BW and are beating down doors to persue you.</I><BR/><BR/>Actually, according to statistics.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-7972293057578097282008-04-24T17:05:00.000-04:002008-04-24T17:05:00.000-04:00Speaking as a white man, I find black women to be ...Speaking as a white man, I find black women to be the most beautiful women on the face of the earth.Mark Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13567358009975250549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-31367687531992477262008-04-24T02:08:00.000-04:002008-04-24T02:08:00.000-04:00Gorgeous, but according to too many misguided and ...Gorgeous, but according to too many misguided and just plain ignorant people, BM "love" BW and are beating down doors to persue you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-73749844787448457432008-04-22T01:40:00.000-04:002008-04-22T01:40:00.000-04:00"In this new town (Boston), I certainly feel like ..."In this new town (Boston), I certainly feel like the statement "white men don't want you" does apply when it comes to relationships. The same goes for black men, so what's a gal to do?"<BR/><BR/>I also reside in Boston and I am surprised that you find the statement about interracial relationships true. I have had just the opposite experience in this town.<BR/><BR/>I am not sure where you spend most of your time, but I find that the most cosmopolitan areas of Boston are havens for meeting white men who date interracially. As for black men, I have never dated any black men in Boston, so I wouldn't be able to help you there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-54759670625373237762008-04-21T08:09:00.000-04:002008-04-21T08:09:00.000-04:00"...but even more so by the limited experience tha...<I>"...but even more so by the limited experience that many black women have had with being approached with the same assertiveness by non-black men that they have experienced with black men."</I><BR/><BR/>What happens when the "approach" from black men, generally boys and old men in my new town, comes in the form of whistles and honked horns? To me, that's not an approach. I've been approached properly (=courteously) by black and white men in other towns. In this new town (Boston), I certainly feel like the statement "white men don't want you" does apply when it comes to relationships. The same goes for black men, so what's a gal to do?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-53948963864638903812008-04-17T13:13:00.000-04:002008-04-17T13:13:00.000-04:00Great post... very thought provoking....Great post... very thought provoking....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-28803631616793010822008-04-15T10:56:00.000-04:002008-04-15T10:56:00.000-04:00Situations like this don't help black women's repu...Situations like this don't help black women's reputation:<BR/><BR/>http://www.thedenverchannel.com/news/15851207/detail.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-14112050491924276192008-04-11T19:23:00.000-04:002008-04-11T19:23:00.000-04:00FYI ... there are two articles in this month's Bla...FYI ... there are two articles in this month's Black Enterprise magazine which highlight two interracial couples and their business. Both are black women married to white men.<BR/><BR/>cheers,<BR/><BR/>BMWCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-32423689298850955622008-04-10T10:01:00.000-04:002008-04-10T10:01:00.000-04:00While many black women cope with psychological or ...<I>While many black women cope with psychological or social hurdles in their path to dating interracially, one of the most potent barriers is the claim that black woman are unattractive, to non-black men and/or to men generally. This claim is generally hurled along two dimensions: (1) that black African characteristics such as kinky hair, dark skin, full lips and broad noses are simply unattractive on women and/or (2) that black women are more prone to obesity and less likely to properly care for themselves physically, and that it is this "self-neglect" that makes black women less attractive than other women.<BR/></I><BR/><BR/> Speaking only for myself as a white man married to a black woman, the features of many black women are heart-stoppingly beautiful to me. The features I'm referring to are the features mentioned in the clip above, dark skin, broad noses, full lips and tightly curled hair. I especially admire the shape of the eyes and the delicate jawlines as well as the graceful, slender necks and wrists I see in many black women.<BR/><BR/> I've been rebuffed by quite a few beautiful black women, but didn't let that stop me from expressing my admiration for beauty when I see it. <BR/><BR/> To any white men reading, just go ahead and tell the lovely woman you're admiring that you find her attractive. The risk is worth the reward. Sure, you'll be snubbed by some, but persistence may well lead to a wonderful relationship and/or marriage.EdDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10900041257270836777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-9351621745934222882008-04-08T19:32:00.001-04:002008-04-08T19:32:00.001-04:00I wish I had time to read all of the post here bec...I wish I had time to read all of the post here because they are all very thought provoking and interesting, however, I can't! Besides, I've been starring at my computer so much lately that my eyes are strained (lol!).<BR/><BR/>One thought that occurred to me regarding white men not being attracted to black women is this; look at history. What I mean by this is white slave owners often had bw as "mistresses". I know that a lot of you out there with strong gender studies as well as sociology backgrounds would say that that scenario was a demonstration of wm dominance, but I don't think it is limited to just that type of power and dominance struggle. There had to be some sort of physical attraction that wm had and have always had for bw in the first place because I'm sure not all of those involvements were just for wm proving that they were dominant. It was just that it was not socially acceptable for a wm back then to openly state that he found a bw attractive let alone be in a position to marry one back then.<BR/><BR/>Keep in mind that as we all know, blacks in general were considered not to be human. This became a "legalized concept" to keep blacks as slaves because before it became law that blacks were only 1/3 human, slavery had not become systemized and eventually slaves were able to earn their own freedom. The screws became tightened to keep slaves and their children and grandchildren as slaves so that whites could keep a secured and steady source of cheap labor.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure this is not news to most of us, but I point this out because whites were taught that blacks are inferior hense the law that blacks are only 1/3 human and therefore less--less intelligent, less desirable, less valuable etc...These beliefs are deeply entrenched in the American social structure, and it takes a long time to undue. If wm 100, 200, 300, 400 years ago had admitted that they found bw attractive, they had A LOT to lose! The whole social structure of American society had been dramatically impacted by this.<BR/><BR/>I'm not saying this to make excuses for whites in general. I just think that a lot of white people do not know how to see themselves positively unless they are seeing non-white people negatively, and it has become very socially acceptable. Again, it takes a long time for beliefs like this to change and therefore, for people to feel comfortable with the idea of wm being serious enough about bw to want to marry them. So, I think the attraction was always there--it has just been to risky to admit it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-67108945070566375542008-04-08T19:32:00.000-04:002008-04-08T19:32:00.000-04:00I wish I had time to read all of the post here bec...I wish I had time to read all of the post here because they are all very thought provoking and interesting, however, I can't! Besides, I've been starring at my computer so much lately that my eyes are strained (lol!).<BR/><BR/>One thought that occurred to me regarding white men not being attracted to black women is this; look at history. What I mean by this is white slave owners often had bw as "mistresses". I know that a lot of you out there with strong gender studies as well as sociology backgrounds would say that that scenario was a demonstration of wm dominance, but I don't think it is limited to just that type of power and dominance struggle. There had to be some sort of physical attraction that wm had and have always had for bw in the first place because I'm sure not all of those involvements were just for wm proving that they were dominant. It was just that it was not socially acceptable for a wm back then to openly state that he found a bw attractive let alone be in a position to marry one back then.<BR/><BR/>Keep in mind that as we all know, blacks in general were considered not to be human. This became a "legalized concept" to keep blacks as slaves because before it became law that blacks were only 1/3 human, slavery had not become systemized and eventually slaves were able to earn their own freedom. The screws became tightened to keep slaves and their children and grandchildren as slaves so that whites could keep a secured and steady source of cheap labor.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure this is not news to most of us, but I point this out because whites were taught that blacks are inferior hense the law that blacks are only 1/3 human and therefore less--less intelligent, less desirable, less valuable etc...These beliefs are deeply entrenched in the American social structure, and it takes a long time to undue. If wm 100, 200, 300, 400 years ago had admitted that they found bw attractive, they had A LOT to lose! The whole social structure of American society had been dramatically impacted by this.<BR/><BR/>I'm not saying this to make excuses for whites in general. I just think that a lot of white people do not know how to see themselves positively unless they are seeing non-white people negatively, and it has become very socially acceptable. Again, it takes a long time for beliefs like this to change and therefore, for people to feel comfortable with the idea of wm being serious enough about bw to want to marry them. So, I think the attraction was always there--it has just been to risky to admit it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-89104463546998963782008-04-08T16:51:00.000-04:002008-04-08T16:51:00.000-04:00Knockoutchick's comment about men choosing the sam...Knockoutchick's comment about men choosing the same kind of woman of another race is so on point! I had a Jewish male friend who refused to date Jewish women because he claimed they were too tough and domineering and were too much like his mother (keep in mind that his father died when he was very small leaving his non-college educated mother with 3 children to rear on her own, which she did and supported and educated them all to college level). So he only dates AW, yet chooses the toughest, ballsiest AW to date! His last fiancee that I heard of was this Filipino girl who bossed him around in my presence to the point that I felt embarrassed for him - he was like a child being berated by a domineering mother!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-61608126858693205842008-04-08T01:43:00.000-04:002008-04-08T01:43:00.000-04:00I agree with everyone here who thinks that the lia...I agree with everyone here who thinks that the liar from Toronto is NOT a WM. I think it is either a BM or a WW, whining because they are afraid that BW & WM are waking up and realizing that those two groups are NOT God's gift to humankind. Spoiled, crybaby, selfish, LOSERS is what they are!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-32134359906976621582008-04-07T23:11:00.000-04:002008-04-07T23:11:00.000-04:00i am glad this article was written. when i first ...i am glad this article was written. when i first saw the title, i thought 'yea, right!' <BR/>I can write plenty of reasons, facts, and experiences (my own and other sisters) that White Men Do Find Black Women Attractive. It's actually a lot more white men than you think but society makes white men think we wouldn't be open to dating them and vice versa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-54350602341551685992008-04-07T19:46:00.000-04:002008-04-07T19:46:00.000-04:00knockoutchick says:Ohhhh, Aimee has an "admirer" w...knockoutchick says:<BR/><BR/>Ohhhh, Aimee has an "admirer" who follows every word posted on her blog!<BR/><BR/>Everything Aimee or her posters say holds great interest for this experienced and knowledgeable BM.<BR/><BR/>Can he wake in the morning without thinking of Aimee? Can a day pass without just one sneak peek at her blog?<BR/><BR/>Can he hold himself back from wondering and posting about BW in IRRs? No, I say....I think not! The draw...the desire is just too strong!!!!<BR/><BR/>But maybe if he could just see a glimpse of Aimees' lovely face for a moment he would go away! Back to his own life, his job, his partner...and away from the shadows..trying to haunt BW who have moved on to a happy place.<BR/><BR/>Maybe he can also find a "happy place" for himself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-77696199279250462642008-04-07T18:30:00.000-04:002008-04-07T18:30:00.000-04:00It's pretty much ok in white society to date outsi...<I>It's pretty much ok in white society to date outside your race now pretty much everywhere except in the extreme rural south.</I><BR/><BR/>This sentiment is so funny to me. I certainly have no stats, but my gut tells me that there isn't a whole lot of interracial dating going on in the backwoods of South Dakota, Pennsylvania, or (insert rural area of just about any damn state here). Frankly, my perception of interracial dating is that the bulk of occurs in major cities. Last time I checked, there's a lot more of "middle America" than there are of major cities. That's not to say the IRR numbers aren't growing, but I wish some would cease with the "everyone else is enlightened except the South" mentality. It's a crock. <BR/><BR/>Sorry - I'm a born and bred Southern gal, so I get a touch sensitive about some things. I needed to vent a bit.Daphnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01503615085554461394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5281981687901780653.post-90470618193013921792008-04-07T17:35:00.000-04:002008-04-07T17:35:00.000-04:00knockoutchick says:LOL@Recently I saw this particu...knockoutchick says:<BR/><BR/>LOL@<I>Recently I saw this particular BM friend again with a new Asian GF who also looked tough as nails.</I><BR/><BR/>Good for her! This reminds of the stories my aunt used to tell about living in Korea while my uncle, who was in the military, was stationed there. She observed that the women ruled the household with an iron fist, and these American soldiers who fell for the "geisha" imagery usually ended up being all shocked and hurt when the "submissive" wives they thought they were getting would demand their entire paycheck each payday and then hand them back a paltry allowance. <BR/><BR/>I had no response to the Toronto tale because (1) as has already been pointed out, it sounds apocryphal, (2) one messy dude's inability to get his messy love life together really doesn't interest me, and (3) this is just another example of the desperate "they don't want you!" propaganda BW just have to see through and then discard. <BR/><BR/>Are we supposed to realize the "problem" is really that we have bad attitudes/are too fat/wear weaves, blah, blah, blah, and then go running "home," chastened? I already AM home. It's too bad this type can't put the same energy into getting their acts together that they put into trying to scare us into staying put.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05618974302577733245noreply@blogger.com