Friday, July 27, 2007

"Sleeping With the Enemy"

Black males typically feel angry when they see a white man with a black woman because to them, she is “Sleeping with the enemy.”

Quote from "Black Women Who Like a Little Cream in Their Coffee," by Matthew Lynch, Bahiyah Woman Magazine, bwmmag.com

Just got some real interesting info from a source regarding the most vocal opponent of the Hot Ghetto Mess Show and website. Like my mama told me, "aint nobody right". Watch whose lead you're following people. If anyone has more info to add or confirmation, let me know...

Word on the street is . . . she is part of a coterie of women who have organized themselves around Evia. As part of that coterie she blogs as Synamon. They began a few months ago under the guise of an interracial dating site. The site ain't about interracial dating at all. It is about spreading white supremacist ideas among black women.
Excerpt from the Myspace page of Jam Donaldson, the creator of the "Hot Ghetto Mess" website.

Halima, at the Black Women's IR Circle, recently blogged on the issue of "What is an Ally"? This is a crucial issue for BW to undestand, because if we cannot distinguish our own best interests, than we cannot distinguish who has our best interests at heart.

However, it is equally important that we understand "Who is an Enemy"? BW in interracial relationships with WM, probably more than any other group, must contend with the "sleeping with the enemy" charge hurled at them by members of their own community. Even BM involved with WW do not face this invective to nearly the same extent, since WW have generally been held less responsible for white supremacy and the sins of institutionalized racism than WM. Both WW and many BM have cheerfully promoted the concept that WW are "victims" too, and thus, no "betrayal" is involved in a BM becoming intimate with them.

The history of colonialism, the black holocaust, slavery, Jim Crow, and the continuation of institutionalized racism inevitably effects even individual relationships between black people and white people. Of course, it also effects individual relationships between black people and other black people as well. Black people are prefer biracial children for adoption over black children just as whites do. BM prefer lighter skinned, straighter haired women over darker skinned, kinkier haired women. As the existence of websites and television programs like "Hot Ghetto Mess" make glaringly obvious, black people today are some of the most brutally
exploitative traffickers in dehumanizing, stereotypical imagery of other black people. And just as there are whites who benefit from "white skin privilege" that provides them advantages in employment, housing, educational opportunities and the criminal justice system, there are blacks like Jam Donaldson and Reginald Hudlin (President of BET Entertainment) who also benefit from promoting white supremacy and black degredation.

The upshot of all of this should be clear: you can't determine whether you are "sleeping with the enemy" by the amount of melanin in his skin. When Jam Donaldson, who originally entitled her website "Nigga Mess," can claim that blogs devoted to supporting BW in having healthy, positive relationships with men regardless of race are actually "spreading white supremacy," it is clear that not only is her internal compass confused, but that she thinks that your's is as well. When DBRBM come to these blogs to slander and abuse BW, all in the name of "racial loyalty," they are not coming out of love for you. As you well know, these same men don't think any more highly of BW who are "loyal," and are no more loving or supportive of them. Their problem isn't that you have "betrayed" them, but that you will no longer make yourself available for them to betray you.

An enemy seeks to do you harm. A friend seeks to do you good. Friends and enemies do not come in specific phenotypical packages. No matter what happened yesterday or what may happen tomorrow, smart sisters never lose sight of these crucial insights, because we never forget what our own interests are. As the late Congressman Bill Clay like to point out "there are no permanent friends or permanent enemies: only permanent interests." Let your interests and your values be your guide, and your internal compass will always be resistant to these transparent manipulations.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

When DBRBM come to these blogs to slander and abuse BW, all in the name of "racial loyalty," they are not coming out of love for you. As you well know, these same men don't think any more highly of BW who are "loyal," and are no more loving or supportive of them. Their problem isn't that you have "betrayed" them, but that you will no longer make yourself available for them to betray you.

play it, play it again!

Anonymous said...

The enemy is not just white supremacy among whites and honorary whites who oppress people of color.

Yes, indeed...sometimes the enemy is the misogynist who looks just like you.

He's the "artist" who sells demeaning lyrics and images in hip-hop; he's the actor who sells demeaning images of black women as loud, obese...all to the tune of millions, and then turns around and has babies with women he has no intention of marrying...

The misogynists further white supremacist interests by giving them cues on how to see bw, and how to oppress them; Imus didn't get his ideas in a vaccuum.

The enemy is the bm who questions your right to be with whomever you want, but does not question his brothers, who comprise the largest number of ir within the community.

Pioneer Valley Woman

Anonymous said...

Sing it LOUD AND CLEAR for all to hear.

Thank you

sprite said...

You know something? I would never, ever even LOOK at a website titled "Nigga mess" or "Ghetto mess"..

Phoenix_Sun said...

So true.

All the trolls who are attempting to invade Halima's blog since Evia's Marriage blog no longer take comments is very telling. I wrote previously that this is just the beginning. Their hate will continue to intensify as BW's resistance to race loyalty grows stronger.

BET is Coon Central, this Hot Ghetto Mess TV show is directly making fun of blacks at their expense. I saw one episode and I was appalled. They promote the worst stereotypes of blacks and make fun of it at black people's expense. This will not challenge racial stereotypes. This network has fallen from grace since the early days of Bob Johnson when it use to broadcast from Washington, D.C.

Growing up I was taught to expect racism from white people. It was expected of them to put you down and insult your intelligence in both blatant and subtle ways. The reality is that blacks have taken up the racist gauntlet against their own. The black community is still talking about white men's ill intention towards black women. How can blacks claim that with a straight face when BM have been notorious for degrading BW?

Black communities are still living in denial. I honestly think Black America will self-destruct in a few decades at the rate it is going. BW who know better have to invest in themselves in order to thrive so they don't wind up as casualties.

foreverloyal said...

Anyone who started something called "Ghetto Mess" has a heckava nerve casting stones.

Anonymous said...

To be quite frank with the way were going I know longer believe in the black community. Thats why black women need to step their game up now because if we dont our children (black daughters) are screwed.

Felicia said...

An enemy seeks to do you harm. A friend seeks to do you good. Friends and enemies do not come in specific phenotypical packages. No matter what happened yesterday or what may happen tomorrow, smart sisters never lose sight of these crucial insights, because we never forget what our own interests are. As the late Congressman Bill Clay like to point out "there are no permanent friends or permanent enemies: only permanent interests." Let your interests and your values be your guide, and your internal compass will always be resistant to these transparent manipulations.

PREACH Aimee. You're telling the God's honest truth.

Black communities are still living in denial. I honestly think Black America will self-destruct in a few decades at the rate it is going. BW who know better have to invest in themselves in order to thrive so they don't wind up as casualties.

Exactly phoenix_sun.

Aimee said...

Phoenix_Sun said...

The reality is that blacks have taken up the racist gauntlet against their own. The black community is still talking about white men's ill intention towards black women. How can blacks claim that with a straight face when BM have been notorious for degrading BW?
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Because too many of us have simply adopted the racist mentality that says that people can be fairly judged on the basis of their race rather than their character and conduct. Many of us have swallowed whole the idea that blacks and whites are actually separate species, and that "sticking with your own" isn't about shared values and beliefs, but about a shared genetic heritage. Sadly, people who think this way do not face a bright future.

Ninabeena said...

HOLLER ATCHA GIRL.
When DBRBM come to these blogs to slander and abuse BW, all in the name of "racial loyalty," they are not coming out of love for you. As you well know, these same men don't think any more highly of BW who are "loyal," and are no more loving or supportive of them. Their problem isn't that you have "betrayed" them, but that you will no longer make yourself available for them to betray you.

That is ringing in my spirit